Heavy Lifting

My boyfriend has been incredibly amazing lately. And yes yes, everyone thinks their sigo is incredibly amazing. But mine has been...well amazing beyond expected. I have been really busy, stressed out, and tired from applying for postdoctoral fellowships. By April 8 (in less than a week) I would have written 5 applications, two of which are REALLY FRICKEN LONG. Usually at home, I am the one who does 75% of the cleaning and 60% of the cooking. I had to break it down into percentages because I am don't do all the work all the time, but I do lead the process and delegate. The cleaning is mostly initiated all by me --but I like it (crazy to believe, I know) because I like taking care of Adam and of my home. Anyhoo. Due to the piles and piles of work with which I have been preoccupied, I have not touched anything in the kitchen in almost 2 weeks. No cleaning, no dishes (maybe once), and absolute NO cooking. Hells. No.

What has Adam done? Everything. I mean, everything. He's made dinner almost every night, except that one night when he took me out for sushi to celebrate because I had just submitted one of the big fellowship applications. He just did a ton of dishes tonight and sometime a few days ago. And I think, he even wiped the counters last weekend. Of course, he would always make me a drink before he made our nightly meals (gin & tonic, strawberry daiquiris, mojitos --all of my favs). Completely unsolicited. And I just feel so happy and lucky and special and so incredibly loved. For a while, I wondered if he had this in him. People had warned me that he wasn't too much of a "warm" person. He's extremely independent, does his own thing --that's how he's been for all of his 33 years. Nothing was going to change. But the Adam that I met a few years ago was incredibly nurturing and nothing like they said. After we had lived together for a while, it felt like that nurturing aspect of him was periodically MIA and at some video-game-land. Maybe I was just doing more than I should've and he became comfortable. Or maybe I often have too many expectations of him. But for the last couple of weeks when I have been off in my own crazy science world, he's really picked up all of my slacks around the apt, and has done all of it without me even saying anything. He even went to pick up groceries over the weekend when it was supposed to be my turn --told me I didn't have to worry about it. He even dropped off our rent check at the realtor's office! A chore that I often do!

So. I just wanted to show off how sweet my boyfriend is, just for a quick moment. I remember hearing, or reading, somewhere about how partnership can't always be 50/50. There are times when you have to jump in and take over 90/10, and there are times when the other person does the 90/10. Just glad I have someone who's got my back. Without me ever asking. Hopefully he stays like this forever.

St. Joseph Island, Ontario - Summer 2013

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